Jihad on You! - Family2012-02-04T21:07:54-05:00Skullyurn:uuid:Fatherurn:uuid:1054782012-01-02T00:34:24-05:00fuck you for being a total asshole and never listening to me and acting like a four year old you stupid fucktardHer behavior is not our responsibility; our response is.urn:uuid:1054592011-11-29T15:02:45-05:00A friend asked me how I deal with my mil, who everyone can see does not like me or acknowledge me.
She has never really treated me like family, and at best tolerates me. She is not involved in my childrens lives at all, NEVER has been.
I used to be offended sometimes even hurt by her behavior. I took it out on my husband instead of saying anything to her. I dealt with the the mean remarks, the cattiness, etc for years in hurt silence.
Today though I understand this "Her behavior is not my responsibility; my response is."
If you are dealing with a mil read this. I hope it helps someone.
The meaning of the Greek word that is translated "busybody" in the 1 Timothy passage means "a self-appointed overseer in other men's matters."
Overseeing is what some mothers-in-law are engaged in, or at least accused of. This kind of behavior is annoying, very frustrating, and contrary to God's plan for the family.
A husband who allows his mother to interfere with his marriage is not living up to the commandment given to husbands in Ephesians 5:25-33. Boundaries need to be set and then held regardless of the resistance encountered. The reality is that people treat us the way we allow them to treat us. If we permit them to trample the sanctity of our family, then that is what they will do,
What can we do about reacting to a woman who acts in the way a manipulating meddling mother-in-law does? We can make a choice not to allow her to take away our peace of mind. We may not be able to change the way others behave, but how we respond to their behavior is our choice. We can allow the actions of other people to get to us, or we can choose to give it over to God and allow Him to use this to strengthen us spiritually. It is our own response to this type of situation that fuels our frustration. Only we can stop wearing ourselves out emotionally by allowing an interfering mother-in-law's actions to be the arbiter of our own peace. Her behavior is not our responsibility; our response is.Dadurn:uuid:1054552011-11-26T20:40:56-05:00You are the biggest lowlife ever, go get a job, scumbag, and maybe get up and do something for onceDi*kheadurn:uuid:1054542011-11-25T12:26:21-05:00Men who dont take care of responsibility ie bills, and kids!CODsurn:uuid:1054512011-11-21T04:13:54-05:00The poor infidel Children of Divorce who get to have 2 Christmas's, two birthdays, two family holidays and behave badly because they are poor widdle Children of Divorce....grow up!Dadurn:uuid:1054362011-09-30T13:36:54-04:00you are such a fucking prick. just die. My crappy dadurn:uuid:1054302011-09-17T12:04:13-04:00i hope you get smacked by karma, you ruin every perfect day with your face.
i may have messed up once BUT YOU MESSED UP 16 YEARS OF MY LIFE
i hate how you think you own everything and anything in this world.... I AM BETTER THAN YOU WILL EVER BE My brother.urn:uuid:1054262011-09-05T20:00:12-04:00My older brother has spent years calling me fat, ugly, stupid, a whore, a cunt, and a bitch, among other things. I know I'm not most of these things (especially a whore, considering I've been faithful to the only significant other I've had), but it's starting to feel like no matter how much I try to think they aren't true, they still are. I feel like a fat, ugly, stupid girl who isn't talented at anything she does and is a dirty, unholy fag who, no matter how faithful she tries to be, always gets attracted to others like the dirty whore she is.
For making me feel like shit for a good portion of my life, I declare holy war on you, motherfucker.Husbandurn:uuid:1054152011-07-28T16:02:21-04:00I am sick of hearing about how you hate your job! I cannot stand another one of your hissy fits directed at me and our son!I have hated my job for years and you told me that I would get used to it. It is your fault we live in this awful place. Either shut up or help me get the hell out of here. And be fucking nice to me! It is not my fault, it is yours! It is getting harder and harder to feel anything for you except fear and contempt.Momurn:uuid:1054142011-07-27T21:00:17-04:00FUCK YOU MOM CAUSE YOU'RE A BITCH THAT MAKES EVEN SUPER HAPPY PEOPLE FEEL SHITTY. FUCKFUCKFUCKFUCKFUCKFUCKFUCKFUCK.No oneurn:uuid:1053922011-07-17T16:40:27-04:00http://www.wogim.org/sinlist.htmYouurn:uuid:1053892011-07-17T07:51:00-04:00For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Matthew 16:26Youurn:uuid:1053882011-07-16T23:20:05-04:00Ur so stupid you don't even know child support has been waiting to go back years and years for you. They were waiting for cooperation wellll now they have it. Asshole! I asked for little and got even less! Now you will be getting what you deserve!Youurn:uuid:1053872011-07-16T23:07:02-04:00Child supporttttttttttt! Fake lying trying to look good ass. You cant if you dont take care of your family! You worried about what? Haha you about to be worried about something totally different. You have looked the other way one too many times while your family was suffering. You tried with the I love yous and the lies now I realize ur just fake! You don't you cant take care of a family you yourself come in the way of that!Sdfsdfurn:uuid:1053792011-07-14T11:39:44-04:00What annoys me is when someone has been gossiping about me. It really annoys me alot!! Esp when it comes back into my ears. Why would you talk about me? Something that I know I will react to. I dont talk about other people usually. But I will react when I find out someone's been gossiping about me!!Internet followersurn:uuid:1053772011-07-12T22:05:43-04:00Did I or did I not tell you that alot of people have followed me onto that website! LOL!Ex factorurn:uuid:1053722011-07-12T08:12:02-04:00I found another site to vent. I need to vent so that i do not implode! I am not sending messages to you. I don't have anyone I feel comfortable enough with(right now) to talk about my feelings, my hurts, my disappointments, and overall you. So I think your on this site now too. So I am moving to another.More ramblingsurn:uuid:1053632011-07-09T14:08:04-04:00Ummm...now to boys. Dont really have a problem. When it comes to boys, I just cant make up my mind!!! If I am to settle down with someone, I think I can be loyal to them for the rest of my life. I think. Probably because I wont be bothered to find someone else. Im scared that Ill end up dating someone and then find someone I like alot more....then what do you do? Right now, I love my ex. Miss him to bits. And if I am to settle down with him, I can see myself being loyal to him. But during my last degree, I liked this one guy for two to three years. Thats probably one of the reasons why I did so well....for him to notice me! If I start another degree, I probably am going to bump into him. Then, I think the confusion is going to start. I really liked him alot alot. Never had to balls to do anything about it. But for two to three years.... Having said that, I never want to hurt my ex again. ARGH! I love him to bits! Definately wasnt ready for a relationship and im not too sure if i am. Going to let life just take its course.... If it was meant to be, it will be. Eh? Someoneurn:uuid:1053612011-07-09T13:36:30-04:00Well....boy problems, I have none. I shall complain about my past. Theres this girl called S. And she was a "friend" I hung out for six months. She was so pushy!! I went on holidays with her and all she would do is yell if she didnt get her way. So the friendship was basically me (being the nice person I WAS) practically being her slave. Demanding me to do this and do that. I went on holidays with her because I couldnt say no. She used to call me in the middle of the night demanding I run errands for her. I drove her everywhere. Ran around chasing mail for her during my exam period. Did this for her. Did that for her. Angry that I wasnt the one to put a stop to it! Anyways, I kept the fact that she slept around/sleeps around a complete secret. But she blabbed/bitched about things about me. It went from one person to the next....not happy!! Hell, you know what. She had five one-night-stand type casual relationships over a six month period. Grosss! Anyways, im pretty annoyed at how I was treated. Pretty much was her push-over. What angered me was I was walked all over by someone I dont even think highly of in the first place. That girl has no substance to her whatsoever!! I dont like her. Tan Qian Yiurn:uuid:1053522011-07-01T23:03:30-04:00nothingTan Beng Hweeurn:uuid:1053512011-07-01T23:01:51-04:00you desrtve to die u treat me like a slave u so called love me!!!! trix is beheaded!! qianyi's friend sent thisMy motherurn:uuid:1053462011-06-23T19:01:35-04:00My mother is a dumb asshole that keeps talking me outside to shop when she doesn't even know what she wants from the supermarket and spends and hour looking for what she wants making me walk around with all the heavy things when she herself clearly can't carry it around either. I hate how long she takes to pay for the stuff too, she makes us look like we're super cheap, occassionally starting arguments over the price of food. It was fine yesterday until she made a comment about how I'm an enemy and an outcast of the family. I was only trying to help my baby brother out until she came over and began ranting about how jealous I am of him and how I want to ruin him and kill him. She called me disgusting, bitch, whore many other things. I'm tired of this bitch. It seems like I'm the responsibility rather than a daughter. You know who you are.urn:uuid:1053372011-06-13T22:29:09-04:00You're, for the most part, an awesome friend. But when I'm getting back into the dating scene, the last thing I need to hear from you is you making comments about my upcoming date that don't matter to me, but still put me in a foul mood because we get into a debate over it and I get annoyed at you. You're right - I'm not as political as you are. Shut the fuck up about my date's political orientation. YOU'RE not the one dating. Just be a friend and offer the moral support I need right now without getting on your high horse. FUCK.Peopleurn:uuid:1053302011-06-05T01:33:43-04:00Some idiot on the forum im on is trying to make me look like something im not. He doesnt realise that alot of people that know me are on that forum, including my ex and his friends and his bestfriend's wife's friends. But that doesnt matter right? Just as long as you can cause as much trouble as you possibly can. Make me out to be something im not. Destroy my relationship with people that are important to me. Who cares? All fun and games to you right? I already have my ex's friend's wife and her friends on my back. One of them likes my ex. They are going to say whatever they can. Looking at what i probably have to go through, im starting to think it may not be worth the trouble. Hes willing to listen to all the bs gossip thats going around and not make the effort to get to know me or speak to me. Yeeeeaaaah, because i want your kids. If he spoke to me, he'll realise that im applying for a research degree. And thats what has been stressing me out. I had to give up on my accreditation exam to work on this research proposal. Plus my publication deadline was last month. Stressed about where im at and not knowing where im heading. And if i get in, i know im going to need emotional support from someone who i can trust. But who cares right? Because im a convenience relationship type of person thats after your kids. One of the girls like him. They will probably say anything and everything. Him and his friends and his friend's wife and all her friends. They gossip and gossip and gossip. FUCKING DADurn:uuid:1053202011-05-17T23:39:12-04:00FUCKING DAD